Intellect, who is the discriminator and judge, finds it difficult to make judgements, as deeper inside, there is a desire for happiness, which is stronger than the righteousness.

Even though the cold war is on, you may go for the desire as it shows a wonderful dream land of happiness, ignoring the protest from the side of the super ego. Suppose you go for it, soon after the celebration, you will feel guilt as you have done something against your conscience. If you don´t do it, it will add one more feather on your crown. You will be judged as a nice person by the society. But as you have not let yourself go into the natural feeling of entering into enjoyment, you will end up in frustrations due to suppression. This suffering you can only keep within secretly without anybody noticing of it. More feathers you add to your glory, greater will be the suppression. This at the long end leads to some kind of psychological crises. In either way the poor human being is squeezed between desire and morality.

It is important to find a way out. Observation is the key. In your observation, you will see that the super ego is a product of social conditioning. As a result of the social conditioning, you have adopted and created many strong concepts and believes. You also have created many ideas and ideals based on your own life experience. These ideals and belief systems always come in confrontation with every moment of your life. Those who are looking for freedom find it as the base of all struggles in life.

If you decide to explore the belief systems and concepts, you will certainly see that the concepts are not been observed by the significant majority of people, but still been upheld as the ruling principles of living. Very few great men have seen it fully and understood. They are confident to expose the hypocrisy of the society to the world.

Jesus said those who have not sinned may cast upon her the first stone, in the context of the transformation moment of Mary Magdeline. Why none of them cast the stone on her? What happened to the morality of the society? Society is a great pretext!

Let us go back to the child hood. In child hood, you are free to do anything which you like. At the age of 2, 3, small children used to get a natural inquisitiveness to explore their
own genital organ. The elders usually get
upset by seeing it. They get more upset if the exploration is in front of some visitors to the family. The elders usually stop the children to contact their own genital region. In course of time children understand, this region of the body has something which is not good and that can't be contacted. At the same time, it is natural to have interest to explore these regions. So they starts to explore everything about it in secrets, which may breed fear.

After every exploration there comes feeling of guilt. Do they not have the freedom to explore their own body? Whenever they get the desire to explore, unconsciously there arises a feeling of sin, a so called extension of the original sin of Adam! This will be brought by the child to his adult hood.
Deeper in him, he knows, these concepts are
baseless but still is scared of going beyond
the norms laid down by the society. For keeping up some kind of orderliness in the society, all these moral codes do exist.

Those who explore, will certainly understand that these are baseless things and a hindrance for the free enjoyment of
a given possibility of living. Actually society is a non existent reality when the desire is happening in the mind.

However the representative of
the society, which is the super ego is alert and having a watch on your desires. It says 'No' to your desires and another part of you continues to desire.

The desiring side of you and the super ego, both are pulling you from two sides. In this process you become restless. If you are restless, you have the responsibility to find out the cause of your restlessness. Otherwise it will ruin your life completely. So naturally after long struggle, you will start to observe. When you become the observer it is difficult for the mind to be the actor. It is a kind of shifting of the duty.

So the mind starts to rest and relax. May be a while later the discussion starts once again. If you really wish to put an end to the discussion, the only possibility is to go into the concept underlying the conflict.

The discussions are coming due to the projection of some specific set of ideas against the desire. If these ideas are really clear for you, based on your experience, certainly you will have faith in this. In such cases the level of conflict will be less. If it is an idea which is not your own and if it is borrowed the conflict will be severe as you are not sure about it.

You want to enjoy and you are restraining yourself from enjoying as you want to make yourself believe what the Master or someone else who you respect in the society said was good. In this process you are trying to live somebody else's life. Here the conflict is twofold, as at the first instance the desire conflicts with the idea which you are keeping and secondly the idea itself is been questioned by someone who is deeply staying in you, that is you, yourself. Even the concept itself starts conflicting.

Here, it is important for you to explore to see whether it is your own idea or whether it is a borrowed one you are simply keeping for yourself without any basis. You are holding this, to project yourself to the society as a good and wise guy. You will also see in this exploration that you are missing each and every possibility of celebration in your life in the name of making yourself a beautiful and presentable person.

What is important? Is it to make yourself presentable to the society and suffer? Or live your life and enjoy without bothering about the society?

Better live your life, enjoy and celebrate and at the same time pay due respect to the fellow beings!